"I have a cousin that was in the closet until he was 35"
I was never in a closet.
After being sexually active since 10th grade, I dropped out of high school and joined the Navy. I was eventually outed after boot camp when I was seen coming out of a gay bar by men I worked with.
When I was still in the Navy I met and became friends with Leonard Matlovich who was in the Air Force. I knew Leo the summer of 1975. He was being processed for a discharge when I knew him. I didn't have the full picture at the time. I just knew he was fighting back. Eventually he won and became the first active duty gay man to fight the military and win. That was prior to Don't Ask Don't Tell. That was back when it was simply, "no gays allowed". I knew him when he got on the cover to Time magazine.
About that same time, the MAA's called me in for questioning. Two months later I was out.
About a month later I ended up living with the Pastor of an MCC church in a large city and started college.
I ended up moving to a smaller city and became friends with a young girl and eventually we became lovers and got married. That was decades ago.
You can be sure it was not easy living dual lives and living with the conflict of needing both.
You see....I knew the gay world pretty well and met many people. I saw that a parade of men in and out of my life wasn't making me happy.
This girl made me happy and she still does. Actually better now than ever. She's just a wonderful good human being and we enjoy each other.
No...I was never in a closet.
Over the years I have seen time and again how God was there for me and I owe Him everything.
But it was my choices.
I don't wear rose colored glasses about the gay lifestyle however I'm not some gay hating Christian either.
So..there it is.