It's only cruel if you sincerely believe humans are inept and need a government to care for them. If you believe that, I can understand how you'd see my opinion as sociopathic.
However, I believe that your opinion objectively false to the point of nonsense - humans survived for most of our existence without a government to feed them. We don't need government to eat. Governments are not Gods. Your phrasing - "Letting poor people eat food" gives literally god-like powers to the government. How else could the government literally prevent, or not "let," people eat if it weren't God?
There is nothing wrong with some amount of suffering. To live is to suffer, to survive is to find meaning in it. Suffering is what takes that laziness you mentioned earlier, and turns it into a drive to succeed. Again, I'm not saying we should end all federal food stamp funds. I said above, I would be against that. I just err on the opposite side that you do because I believe smooth seas make bad sailors. We need to struggle; it's an important part of figuring out how to provide for ourselves.
We disagree; sorry you feel the need to call me names about it.