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I've never gotten a message like that from upper administration. Of course my situation might be unique, but until a couple years ago if I had to stay home to take care of a sick child, I had to lie and say that I was sick. This is standard operating procedure in many school districts. Sick days are ONLY for being sick, and ONLY if you yourself are sick and NOT to care for a sick child. It was an open secret that parents would lie consistently, but again - a memo like this is NOT my experience, but I'm glad if it's standard for other people.
#5. I hear you. We have a neighbor down the street who was in DC. Facebook pictures suggest he was at the rally but not in the "storm the Capitol" mob. I do fear where his mind is, as he has a Trump totem at the end of our road (long dead end in the country) and swore at me excessively because I have a Biden sign in my yard. Have definitely thought about whether it's time to get protection in the house.