"Is this attitude privledge?"
Quite the contrary. Privilege would be thinking that, being from country A, country B had an obligation to allow you to stay, even if you lacked the prerequisites to be in country B.
I am in Germany because they allow me to be here. If they elected to boot me, would you think them as being cruel?
"the deportees don't have the resources the country(ies) that they would be a more natural fit are dangerous to them the cruelty is the point."
I'm intrigued by your notion of a country being a "natural fit" for someone. Can you define that further?
If my unemployed, dirt-poor daughter was to be deported from Germany back to the US, would that constitute cruelty on the part of the German government? From my vantage point, I don't think so. Even though the US is vastly more dangerous than Germany.
"Trump's escapades in the ME aren't helping things but it's definitely not the only elephant in the living room."
Let's be honest with each other. Trump is the problem. He is a disaster.