Speak,
You seem to think I changed my lifestyle and things went great.
Nope. Being married didn't fool anyone.
I still had to deal with crude remarks. Once someone spilled toner inside the copier. They didn't know I was sitting behind a partition. One of them said, "Why not have (my name) suck it out.
Being married didn't hide me in a closet.
On top of that I have the eccentric computer-head personality. Geek..nerd.
I was the one who installed all networking, servers, workstations, accounting software and design, setup and training. Plus, prepared financials in construction, manufacturing, retail and distributor environments.
Also, I was sometimes hired to find and fix problems in those settings. Is it a hardware or software problem? And then go from there.
Not fitting in well and being unique was overlooked because no body could manage me.
I was self motivated and excellent at troubleshooting.
But I still got the gay harassment. Once my car was in the shop and a guy in the warehouse picked me up in his pickup truck in a blizzard. Made me sit in back in the open in the freezing snow when there was room in the cab.
If you think my marrying a woman was living in a closet, you have no idea.
Gays today just don't get it that 20 years ago things was very different for gay people.
Dan,
"I'm a human being who believes others deserve to be treated with dignity"
Is that all people or just the ones who think like you?